For about two-thirds of my life all I really knew was subsistence eating. My parents fed us almost completely from boxes. Hamburger Helper, Chef Boyardee, Idaho Mashed Potatoes, 8 for a dollar Ramen Noodles, Bologna and Cheese on store-bought, white bread are the things I think of when I think about my childhood food. There were never really any sit-down meals in my family, home-cooked or otherwise. I can't recall when the last time my family had dinner at a restaurant. I think it may have been after my graduation from junior high. I was never shown the communal aspect of the meal. It was merely fuel. Food meant nothing. So much so that an ex-girlfriend once made a beautiful dinner complete with roasted potatoes and vegetables and I scoffed at it asking “Why spend so much time and effort on food?”
I am not mentioning any of this
looking for sympathy at all. Merely to illustrate where I came from
so as to better portray where I am now. Over the last 10 years I've
come to recognize the importance and power food and drink hold in our
lives.
Nearly all of the relevant
relationships in my life have come to bloom and flourish over food
and drink. There's a depth and honesty of conversation and
interaction between people you don't see any other way. Some of the
finest nights of this past decade have happened in dimly lit rooms
with a small group of people I love, over charred flesh and smoky
whiskey. Obviously, it doesn't have to be that setting or that menu.
I've also had plenty of fantastic times sitting on a deck eating
grilled burgers while drinking beer. Or wings and chips watching the
game. Or terribly unhealthy fried stuff and whatever creations we
come up with while sitting around with the “fellas” watching
grown men in tights roll around with each other on pay-per-view.
It's sometimes with 4 people or 6 people. Sometimes with 20 people
or 2 people. The point being; it's moments like these that have
allowed me to realize why some of the extraordinary people in my life
are so extraordinary. It's not just sharing a meal...it's briefly
sharing life.
Cooking is an entirely different
animal, but for me it's one that's become just as important. Not
everyone can do it. So you can't really judge someone by how they
cook. But for those of us that do cook, we generally give a piece of
ourselves with the food that we serve. I know when I cook, it's a
means of expression. I'm not talking about subsistence cooking.
When I can barely stand after a torturous day of work and I heat
something up or haphazardly toss together a salad. I'm talking about
when I start with some sort of idea and nurse it along from concept
to plate. When the intention is to eventually serve that idea to
someone other than just me. There's an artistry there that I hadn't
recognized until I started to cook that way myself. There's a
tremendous amount of excitement and trepidation when I present
something I made for the first time to someone else to try. I can't
wait to see the eyebrows raise and the corners of their mouth lift to
reveal a smile of satisfaction. At the same time I dread seeing
their foreheads wrinkle when they're searching their minds trying to
find something nice to say about the awful dreck I've just had them
put in their mouths because they don't want to hurt my feelings.
There's this wonderful back and
forth to be shared between people that love to cook. I've had so
many interesting conversations with people about cooking with folks I
might never have even spoken to had we not had that in common.
Bouncing ingredients and ideas off of someone that also sees a vision
in food is one of my favorite things in the world.
Basically I just figured I'd give
folks a bit of a reason as to why food has become an important part
of my life. It's not just the carnal and sensual nature of some
meals (although seriously, that's a big plus). It's that food brings
people together. Food isn't merely fuel. It's a uniter. It's a
vessel for sharing. So I want to share with you. I've got a few
years of restaurant reviews stored up that have been posted in
various other places that I'll get around to posting from time to
time as I got through them. I may feel the need to go back and
revisit some of the places if I feel I didn't do a good enough job in
representing them. I've got some recipes that might be worthy of
sharing and maybe some opinions on food matters that I want to
express. An article here or there that I've stumbled upon that I
think is worth sharing. I do warn you ahead of time, I have a
tendency to get a little wordy. You may have noticed that reading
this lengthy soliloquy. I hope someone gets something out of what I
share. I hope some people feel the urge to share with me. As the
man who taught me the most about what I know about food might
say...let's all go find some Good Eats.
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